How Can I get My Wife to Understand My Desire for Chastity?

Mistress, please tell me, “how can I get my wife to understand my desire for chastity?”

I’m a high-powered business executive who has always been submissive in the bedroom. My wife knows this, though she doesn’t really get into being in control or having me serve her. Over the years, she has agreed to try different roleplay scenarios, such as making me wear panties while she tells me I’m not a real man, having her feed me my own cum while she tells me she’s preparing me to eat her boyfriend’s creampie after he’s filled her pussy, etc.

Bless her heart, she really does try, but she just isn’t convincing. She’s clearly not comfortable being in control and making me serve her in various less-than-flattering ways. What I can’t get her to realize is that I need this type of domination, the submissive humiliation, in order to really have earth-shattering orgasms. After many, many discussions on the subject, she finally agreed to indulge me in my submissive fantasies by allowing me to call a phone sex Mistress once a week. Don’t get me wrong, the wife and I still have plenty of sex, it’s just of the vanilla variety, which seems to really work for her, and that’s what’s important.

Juggling Mistress’ Demands, My Needs, and My Wife’s Needs

As mentioned above, my wife and I do still have regular sex, which she finds very fulfilling and enjoyable but I still have a strong desire for chastity. I am ever the considerate lover, taking care to make sure her needs are met each and every time, whether mine are, or not.

This seems to work well for her and is fine with me because we both know I’ll be calling my regular Chastity Mistress soon, and my more kinky needs will be taken care of, as well. Mistress gives me all sorts of assignments to do throughout the week, in addition to whatever she expects from me during the call. My wife is always aware of my assignments and usually has no problem with any of them.

She didn’t mind when Mistress made me replace all my boxers with panties and start wearing panties every day. She didn’t mind when Mistress gave me hours of orgasm edging assignments to complete each day. She didn’t even mind when Mistress made me save up my cum in an ice cube tray so we could play a cum eating game the next time I called her. She really has been a good sport… that is, until now.

Absolutely No Chastity Device is to be Worn, Ever!

Because my wife has been such a good sport over the years, it didn’t occur to me when the natural progression of my submissive training with Mistress led her to lock me in chastity, that my wife would take such an issue withy desire for chastity and being locked up. The rules of my chastity were that I was to wear the chastity device 24 hours a day until the next time I talked to Mistress.

She made it very clear that I was to please the wife sexually in any way she wanted to be pleased, even if it meant taking off the chastity device and having sexual intercourse with her. Of course, I was ordered to make sure my wife orgasms but under no circumstances was I allowed to orgasm.

Being that I had always wanted to be put into chastity, I was quite excited and couldn’t wait to show my wife when she got home. Little did I know that she was going to freak out, order me to remove the device, and forbid me to ever wear it again! At first, I thought she was upset because she thought I wouldn’t be able to please her, that we wouldn’t be able to have intercourse. But even after I got her calmed down enough to explain, she still took issue with me being locked in chastity.

The trouble is, I want to be locked in chastity more than anything in the world. How can I get her to understand this desire and to not be so freaked out about me wearing a chstity device? Below is the advice I received from my Chastity Mistress. I am followig her suggestions now and will see how it goes.

Mental Chastity

I’ve said it before and I will say it again; the mind is the biggest sex organ. It’s the fantasies we concoct in our brains, the pictures painted for us with words, that stimulate us and send us over the edge. This case is no different. A submissive does not need a literal cage to be chaste. Though he may desire one at some point, the principles are the same and if done properly, the Mistress can succeed in making her submissive feel as if he is locked away physicially, even when he is not.

My recommendation is to have your wife roleplay putting you in chastity (without the actual device) and have her observe how much better of a lover you become. How much more attentive to her needs you become. How much more submissive you become. These changes will occur subtly and without requiring her to be super strict or to be overly dominant, and she is likely to be so pleased with the results, that she may not mind when you suggest making it official by wearing the cage.